The Art of Being Selfish

When we are born we are the center of our universe. Slowly society teaches us that our needs should never come first. Being selfish, being self centered, is being bad and that’s not good. The truth is success comes from being selfish, putting your needs and dreams ahead of everything else. This is the secret of the universe, where you focus your energy is what manifests.


When I was a new mother my aunt told me, the biggest lie of women’s lib(eration) was to make us think we can have it all, at the same time. You have to prioritize. You only have 100% how you slice it up is up to you. You can give 90% to your career and your home and family 10, some part of your life is going to be lacking. I made a decision right there to be the best mother I can be, which means every other aspect of my life came second. I do not regret it. Now, my only child will soon be leaving the house and for the first time, in a long time, I can consider- what do I want?

Those four little words, “what do I want”, has led me to the center of myself. Babies in a nurturing home get their needs met and they are the center of the universe. However, when we get older, the ‘I wants’ are shamed out of us. We are taught empathy. We are forced to share. We are taught helping others equates to happiness. We can see that helping others with their wants leads to praise, smiles, hugs, all positives. We learn focusing on self is shunned, may be punished, cause friction, or generates bad feelings. We are taught that it’s wrong to consider our feelings first. Some of us are so damaged by this, we don’t know who we are. Therefore, we cannot possibly answer the question: what do I want?


The internal conflict is giving yourSelf permission to be selfish. It takes strength to look in the mirror and know thyself. That means knowing what makes you happy, where your joy lies. This is almost an impossible task for many of us. We believe that selfishness is a sin, it is opposite of loving and that simply not true. There is nothing more loving than loving yourself. That is a natural truth. It is natural to take care of Self, all animals know this, it’s instinctual. So, what’s wrong with us? Why is it so hard to say,” this is me, I am…” and “I love me”?

The names, the labels, and the negativity: narcissistic and uncaring. All because you found your joy and you are living it. You have to get past what others think, say and/or do. You are unique, with special gifts to share. I’m coming to believe that we all need to be selfish. At some point in your life you have to look in the mirror. When you do, you want to love what you see, from the inside out. I am not suggesting that you neglect your life, your family, or work. I am suggesting, with regularity, you do something completely selfish. Spend some time remembering who you are, things you love and do that. You cannot keep putting off your joy; your tomorrow may never get here. If you love skipping, drawing, whistling, whatever that is, take time and live freely, if only for a few moments. It will change your life.

Written by: Tanzania Lucas

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From Citizen of New Jersey to Citizen of the World: Key Ingredients to Build the Life You Want

How we think determines everything we experience in this life. When I first started toying with the idea of change, I realized for the first time the impact our thoughts have on our reality. I was open to the idea that if I changed how I thought, my world would change along with it. I wanted to be more positive—I wanted to be one of those people who believed good things could happen merely by, well, believing they could. I wanted to believe we have a good deal of control over our experience, and great power in shaping our lives.

When I evaluated my current way of thinking and belief system, I realized I was not a super-negative person, but I certainly didn’t have a shiny outlook on things. Like many people, I just didn’t expect much, and just let life kind of happen to me.

Realize what you believe now is really not based on any sort of hard fact or objective truth—you can believe in something better. You just have to be willing to accept this, and make a serious effort to be different. You must expose yourself to information that helps you internalize these more positive beliefs and ways of thinking—you have a lot of programming to undo, and the repeated exposure is necessary.

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7 Things To Give Up On

If you’ve ever said that you’ve never tried to go above and beyond for a person you actually like(d) or loved, you’re probably lying. Just because you did or do doesn’t guarantee they’ll do it back, or for that matter accept what your doing for them. You could spend the rest of your life trying to make them happy and hopefully see your way or accept the fact that not everyone will agree with the path you chose. Long story short, you can’t please everyone.

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The 10 Inventions of Nikola Tesla That Changed The World

Nikola Tesla is finally beginning to attract real attention and encourage serious debate nearly 70 years after his death. Was he for real? A crackpot? Part of an early experiment in corporate-government control?

We know that he was undoubtedly persecuted by the energy power brokers of his day — namely Thomas Edison, whom we are taught in school to revere as a genius.  He was also attacked by J.P. Morgan and other “captains of industry.” Upon Tesla’s death on January 7th, 1943, the U.S. government moved into his lab and apartment confiscating all of his scientific research, some of which has been released by the FBI through the Freedom of Information Act. (I’ve embedded the first 250 pages below and have added a link to the .pdf of the final pages, 290 in total).

Besides his persecution by corporate-government interests (which is practically a certification of authenticity), there is at least one solid indication of Nikola Tesla’s integrity — he tore up a contract with Westinghouse that was worth billions in order to save the company from paying him his huge royalty payments.

But, let’s take a look at what  Nikola Tesla — a man who died broke and alone — has actually given to the world.  For better or worse, with credit or without, he changed the face of the planet in ways that perhaps no man ever has.

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Light, Darkness & Subconscious Consciousness

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.
~ Marianne Williamson

First, I would like for you to imagine a room, perhaps your bedroom with everything in it of course. You then turn off the light(s), and it’s now dark. Does that make the items in your room or your room evil, considering the popular religious doctrine that darkness is evil? In fact, you know exactly what’s in that room. You Tell Me! Try bringing someone over to your place, and bring them to your dark room. Tell them that everything in this room is evil, and watch their reaction; then, turn on the light(s). They now have accumulated your knowledge of this room; however, this is a direct parable of a higher truth.

Step Into My Room

Step Into My Room














The subconscious mind is like a grave, in which information has become buried. Behavioral patterns can be the worse, because we may find ourselves repeating the same thing over and over again, because habits have become so ingrained, so buried. We need a shovel for lifting the dirt.

Conscious Mind

Conscious Mind














Light and Darkness can be taken in so many ways, and an endless subject it is. The best ways of relating to this subject is going for what we already know, for example: light can be seen as our conscious mind, and our subconscious mind can be seen as the darkness, because it’s not fully seen Right Now! Our subconscious mind remembers everything that has happened to us in this life, and I mean everything, a recorder best’s relates to this. Something hits us, and we say: “Ohhhh Yeahhhh!” I remember that. You see? A resurrection of thoughts.

I am sitting, writing this to you—everything I want to say is stored into a folder in my mind, perhaps unorganized (subconscious) until I’ve written it down, and edited my wording(s). As I am writing, more ideas may come from my own darkness but I am shooting for the deep known. I am not telling you how one should think, or what one should do, but to use myself as an example to make some kind of point is the goal.

They tell us to stay out of the darkness, but why? Are we told this because we may have hidden powers? Some kind of connection to something greater than ourselves; directly? Or is it something we can use to correct ourselves? We might as well just give away half our brains, since we’re not going to use it anyway.

Here You Go Boss, Take Half.

Here You Go Boss, Take Half.








Thanks! Now Get Back To Work.

Thanks! Now Get Back To Work.









A master once stated that we are 97% in ego (sub-consciousness) and 3% conscious. Really? We go to work everyday and work for others, while we receive our payments for that work, right? We can also work for ourselves, do you see it coming? We can do spiritual work for our own salvation, or we can work for theirs.

Nature is very rich in knowledge and wisdom, but we can only understand things with our own percentage in consciousness. The light of the world, God’s son, bright ray’s etc. But Look! Our sun has those same qualities: the light of the world, right? Is the sun yours, no; then, it may be God’s Sun, right? The sun also dies and resurrects everyday, for those who like metaphors.

Without Me, Things Would Cease To Exist.

Without Me, Things Would Cease To Exist.









See! You heard it from the sun itself. I would put my faith in that.
















One’s consciousness is the flashlight one uses to see in the darkness, or in the subconsciousness. There are many techniques we can utilize to help us with this; we need knowledge. Other techniques are that of meditation, reading, “temporary isolations, using beliefs” as a study guide and more. The best type of knowledge to accumulate is that of bringing things to a oneness, as everything is. This kind of knowledge does not require debates of any kind.

Let’s look inside our minds with this flashlight and examine the darkness, our beliefs, ideas etc. We have been told a lot of lies from the beginning of our lives from society. Try to build the word satan and santa out of these letters: s,t,a,n,a. You see? There are no added or unused letters to make those spellings. It’s been in front of our faces the whole time, but we just did not see it before; however, our subconsciousness did. Possibly you already knew. The light comes from darkness, but the light is ours to keep, for construction.

Light & Darkness

Light & Darkness








Let’s take this socket here. We see the face behind the face, but the outward face has three outlets on each row. Let’s call this the female plug socket, or the light bearer–it is full of light, but darkness at the same time because the power is hidden. I am simply mentioning darkness because one cannot see behind it once it’s fully installed. The male plug would be considered the one that has the appliance attached to it, which plugs into the female socket and then we have life.. It takes two to make life, or more light.

The conscious and the sub-conscious both need one another. One has to go inside in order to bring light out and be a light upon others. We go to sleep (enter darkness), and we wake up (enter light), but these two concepts are also entangled with one another. One could be awake in the sleep state, and be sleep in the awake state. Not trying to confuse you, but it’s something to think about.

“You are an explorer, and you represent our species, and the greatest good you can do is to bring back a new idea, because our world is endangered by the absence of good ideas. Our world is in crisis because of the absence of consciousness.” ~Terence McKenna

We can say that the world that we see in front of us, and around us is what’s in us. The world cannot tell us what to think or how to interpret something, although we can be manipulated—we still have freewill, or do we not? Everything we see has some kind of story to tell, but as stated previously: “we can only understand things with our own percentage in consciousness.” The rest of the story is picked up from our subconsciousness, by default, due to us being divine beings; everything works rather we know how to use it or not. It’s as if putting on different clothes reflect different characters from our own darkness.

God Answers To Me!

God Answers To Me!













After picking up a little knowledge, some of us may feel superior to others. Have you ever heard the saying: “never let your left hand know what your right hand is doing?” Imagine a ninja sneaking into a building to terminate someone, but this mission would be compromised if he told everyone he was there—he would be captured and or killed. If we let our left hand know (lower self/darkness) what our right (higher self) is doing; then, that message is picked up and interpreted by our very own lower selves or inner enemy. It would be ideal for us to take what we have learned, and create something new with it—reflecting the higher self. Being able to let go of information is ideal because it keeps one fresh: “like a child per se.” When the physical body holds onto information, it tends to become old and then eventually dies.

Fortunately there is a way to build our very own consciousness, and awareness is definitely a key. We can have read all of the books in the world and still have yet to know something—we become very good repeaters. It is fortunate when we become very aware of what’s coming into our minds, but this takes practice. If we do not become very aware of the information in-taken; then guess what? The subconscious mind picks it up and disorganizes it. Being “conscious” is not always a great thing or happy thing, but an act of suffering and letting go of old ways, because we are going against what we have been taught.


Being “conscious” also implies getting out of our comfort zones every now and then. Also, stating that we do not know anything and meaning it, which also takes power from our ego’s. Humility is a very big part of consciousness.



Chastity (purity)

Temperance (self-restraint)

Charity (giving)

Diligence (zeal/integrity/Labor)

Forgiveness (composure)

Kindness (admiration)

Humility (humbleness)

Consciousness is something we grow into over time, and not something we receive all at one time. What I think we are doing is getting back to the heart that a baby has, a child has, as they shine to the world.


Written By: A.D. Upchurch


Light, Darkness & Subconscious Consciousness (via Creative Sol Vibrations)

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us. ~ Marianne Williamson First, I would like for you to imagine a room, perhaps your bedroom…

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The Only Source of Knowledge

Some people gain so much “knowledge,” but yet, tend to complain about how stupid or ignorant humanity is. But you have forgotten, you’re part of humanity and you’re the one complaining—I see you complaining about a moment, where nothing else exists but your complaint… how much better can you actually be? That knowledge you previous grasped was never yours; thus, you did not understand it, which it is only information.

Can words be aware of themselves? The idea of this question is puzzling (or maybe not) because it requires us to think for a moment and expound on several ideas; connected to the question. If we can agree that everything emanates from a primary source, and us as being collective beings feeding off one another; then, words can be the same. Words are neutral, and they help us to tap into our inherent imagination for a possible meaning, a picture of some sort. Expert listeners are able to see beyond the words one uses, because expert listeners have an elevated inherent imagination and a better understanding of themselves.

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Perfecting Perfect Perfection

The idea of perfection is rarely looked at in a broader scope–taking us to places we have already been, but have never seen. Let me explain: the person that says: “Ohhh, I have never looked at it that way before,” has finally seen something, a place, a feeling that has always been there but not observed. Let me ask you: “what is perfection?” One can do a quick internet search to get plenty of definitions of perfection, but neither are perfect explanations and neither will I offer you one here. I will offer something else to you, a puzzle, an idea which I’d like to call perfecting perfect perfection.

Perfecting Perfect Perfection?

Considering the idea of Godly perfection; it’s all-knowing, all-powerful ways of coping with itself and everything else—life must be awful for such a deity, for there would be nothing to do but boss around and command lesser beings. But wait! This is only our religious understanding of perfection, and it only applies to a God, or a Higher Being per se.

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Do You Make These 5 Transformation Mistakes?

New Year, new start, big plans. It’s going to be different to next year…better, that’s the hope. Even without the resolutions as they are so old paradigm and most of us know and have experienced that New Year promises and intentions are so easily doomed.

Big plans, big visions, out with the old and in with the new are sentiments and activity if any New Year, yet why is it only a small number of people realize their dream in comparison to the number of people who want to live the dream?

It would be easy to say it was down to luck, but that would not be true.
Luck like all things is something that you create not something that is dished out.

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Will Power

What is Will power? We are told that will power is self-control: the trait of resolutely controlling your own behavior, or will power is the self discipline to sacrifice a short term good to gain a long term good. People have also said that we are the Will. Whatever your definition of Will; hopefully it works for you, but please note that Will is a tool and not what we are.

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